Don't Be Afraid of Negativity

You may have heard about Lacy Philips, the resident expert in manifestation. She asserts that manifestation is about deep self worth, not mental positivity or surface level vision boards. I agree with why she says this, and see it as a relief to realize “of course” we can’t control our reality with the blip of a thought or the sight of an image. We have to BELIEVE what we see in order to bring it into our subconscious mind.

We certainly don’t want to be paranoid that our lingering sad or lonely automatic thoughts are going to doom us. We can’t be afraid of it, that’s for sure. I remember when I believed not so long ago that I had to have happy thoughts all the time. It’s just not that simple, we are kidding ourselves if we think we’re that powerful, Lacy says.

The catch of course is that we need to take responsibility for our automatic thoughts. What creates the deeper structures of sustainably positive self worth STARTS with beginning to choose new ones. Well, hmm… it starts with reprogramming what you notice is hooking above the surface in order to set a better foundation below the surface. So, instead of freaking out if the colors of our thoughts aren’t positive, we want to slow down, and be fully conscious of what we are telling ourselves so that we can send new signals to what’s happening down stairs in our subconscious. Our thoughts are like projector screens - we can either believe the story being shown on the screen - or not. So don't be freaked by the thoughts themselves, be skeptical of the attachment to them.

Seriously darlings don’t be scared if negative thoughts arise, you are a human being. The invitation here is to get WAY MORE CURIOUS about why they are there so you can eat popcorn while watching the scary movie. You can see a million negative thoughts float across the screen, but if under the surface your inner wisdom is like “iiiinteresting, there I go again” “look at what show my brain is playing today” then hunnies your self worth has a chance. Don’t be afraid, watch and observe, and kill the angry confetti with kindness. What is the negativity trying to tell you? What is the 2% truth of the scary thought? How can we reframe the negative thought into something useful and connected to your deep human worthiness?

My hack is what I call “Grandmotherly”or “Grandfatherly” knowingness. What would a loving grandparent say to you about the shit storm? Probably something along the lines of a warm, smothering hug. That’s how I want you to talk back to your meanie thoughts, not necessarily with words, but with the warmth of being and awareness. That’s where self worth finds its way back into the light no matter what negativity is sure to arise.